I don't think it was a good idea for instance admins to agree to talk to Meta under a nondisclosure agreement, but that DOESN'T make it an excuse for people to go and harass those admins. If anything they're the victims of Meta IMO, and a lot of them may still be in favor of blocking Meta regardless of whether they agreed to the meeting or not. I think we have to stick together in situations like this and act accordingly, keep in mind that "divide and conquer" is a proven strategy.
Its also important to acknowledge that Fediverse has the same kind of design flaws that made it possible for Google to take over the email ecosystem with their Gmail service, @aral has written a blog post that explains this problem very well - https://ar.al/2022/11/09/is-the-fediverse-about-to-get-fryed-or-why-every-toot-is-also-a-potential-denial-of-service-attack/
So the way to move forward would be to create a system which doesn't have these flaws, and the only way to do that is to somehow get rid of the power difference between the one who can run servers and the one who can't.
I'm a tech consultant who has been building email systems for over 25 years and using email for over 35 years.
Google didn't "take over the email ecosystem", and any suggestion that they did so displays a complete lack of understanding of the email ecosystem.
Gmail provided a better "free" email system than Hotmail, etc. There are many, many ways to use email that don't involve Google, many free or so low cost as to be insignificant.
@gcvsa @futureisfoss Right, well, clearly some of us are just clueless about certain things apparently.