New blog post: That one time in the elevator.
Where I talk about a deeply scary experience, that made me better understand how scary men can be for women.
This is a bit of elevator etiquette I tried to teach my sons.
When you’re in a elevator with a woman:
1) Stand in front facing the doors so she can see you and so she doesn’t feel like you’re leering at her. Don’t stand up against the wall.
2) If it’s clear you’re both getting off at the floor, always go first so she doesn’t feel like you’re following her.
It feels rude, but she we feel more safe.
@JCMann thank you. Another one most well-meaning men never consider: when walking on the street, if you’re in her blind spot, a woman doesn’t know if you’re friend or fiend. Most men are thinking abt box scores, tacos, the business mtg they just left, why lint exists etc & have no intention of whacking the woman over the head & dragging her into an alley. Women can’t ascertain this. So pass her quickly, but casually & keep walking. I’ve ducked into doorways to let men pass bc of this habit.